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Every journey starts with the first step

Every journey starts with the first step

Every day life delivers to us thousands of choices. In everything that we do, we need to make a decision. From the very moment that you opened your eyes this morning up until this very moment in time you have already made a vast number of choices. You needed to decide if you were going to get out of bed or roll over and go back to sleep. You needed to decide what to wear, what to have for breakfast, when you were going to leave the house, whether it was going to be coffee or tea or neither, if you were going to work hard or have a lazy day, who to speak to and how you would speak to them, and even if you were going to read this blog or not. Well let me just say, you made the right choice.


But before you continue reading the rest of the post I want you to think about your life. Really think about it, with two main questions in mind. What are you happy with and what do you want to change? They seem to be pretty broad questions and maybe you are sitting there thinking that you don’t have an answer to these questions. But I can guarantee that if you tried hard enough, you would have a response to share. The reality is, we are all human and we all dream and aspire to have more in our life and to become more than who we are. We may very well be quite happy and content with most things in our lives but there is always something more that we crave. This could be a new car, a bigger house, a better job, a holiday, more free time, a new or improved relationship, a busier social life, to be healthier or more attractive. I am sure the list goes on. No matter what your answer is, the truth is, we all want something more! Now, ask yourself this question. Why haven’t you got the thing you want? This may be a little easier to respond to as you sit there and list all the reasons and excuses as to why this is the case. STOP! Stop with the reasons and excuses because they are simply an illusion. You can grit your teeth, shake your head and argue your point with me until you are blue in the face. But take a breath and listen up because there is a very strong chance that you may see my line of reasoning as you read on.

 

Life is hard. Life is really hard and nothing seems to come easy. Maybe it feels like the world is conspiring against you and no matter what you do, nothing seems to go the way you want. Possibly the goals you have in mind seem impossible to achieve. Maybe you have tried and failed or perhaps it is just not the right time. Maybe, just maybe it is not within your control. BULLSHIT! They are all excuses. The reality is that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Do you remember when this exact statement was shared with you when you were a kid and you believed it? “Anything is possible; you can do anything you set your mind to” would be the usual quote. Well, whoever it was that told you that was actually telling you the truth. But why is it that somewhere in between being that child with that hope of the world and becoming that adult who quite literally has the world at their feet, we start to think that those people who spun us that line were actually deceiving us? There are many ways this can be answered because we all have unique lives and the response may be different for each of us. Maybe somewhere during your life you have tried and failed. Maybe at one point in your life someone, who was scared or envious, told you that it was not possible and you believed them. Maybe you have thought about it and you have realised that it is just too hard or the risk is too great and it’s not worth it. Do me a favour and look at the statement again. ‘Anything is possible; you can do anything you set your mind to.’ Maybe, you just misunderstood this information. This quote is not meant to give you the impression that everything in life will be easy and everything will come free. Keep that in mind. But whatever the reason, you need to change your way of thinking and remember what you were told as a child. It is possible.

 

Many obstacles will still be in your way but if you start to believe again then you are half way there. Once you have your mind set ready for the challenge you need to consider what your other obstacles are. Most likely, the biggest obstacle you will have to overcome is yourself. You may give up too easily, you may not plan enough, you may not make your goal a priority, you may not want it bad enough? Can I remind you of what I said before; life is hard! Nothing comes easy and you don’t have the luxury of being lazy if you want to succeed. There are two final and very important questions for this article; how bad do you want it and what are you willing to sacrifice to get it? Do you want that new car or a bigger house? Well, sorry to say but you will have to cut back in other areas. Whether it is eating out, the pub, or shopping; something has to be sacrificed. Do you want a better job? Well, take the time to improve your skills through a course and get out there to look for something that suits you better. The ideal job will not fall into your lap on your lunch break. Do you want more free time? Then free up your schedule and stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect. The house can go a few days without being vacuumed, you don’t need to spend every waking hour committed to your job, and not everything has to be done at once. Is it that you want an improved relationship or an improved social life? Well, stop being boring and lazy and get out there to enjoy life. Try something new, learn who you are as a person, meet new people and build your relationships through experiences and conversation. I am sorry I don’t have the secret or magic to help you all reach your goals and utmost desires. The cold harsh reality of it all is that you need to decide what you really want in life, what you are willing to do to achieve it and then take the first step in the right direction. No one will do it for you and it won’t happen unless you make the conscious decision to work hard for it.

 

 It all sounds tough, I know. But I am not asking you to do something that I would not be willing to do and have not done myself. A little while ago, I asked myself the very same questions I ask you now and I decided what I wanted, considered what was holding me back and came to the conclusion of what I was willing to do to overcome the obstacles and achieve what I wanted most. I jumped straight in and risked it all because I decided that the possible outcome was worth it. I cleared out my life, got rid of all my possessions, said goodbye to the people I loved the most, and I made myself vulnerable to failure as I took a leap of faith. It wasn’t easy and at times it is still really hard. But I am able to do what makes me happy and travel the world because I made one decision and took one step at a time.  Now, I look back and wonder how I made it all possible. You can do the same. Make one positive choice after another, take one step at a time, and eventually you will look back on all that you have achieved. I don’t promise it will be an easy journey to reaching your goals, but I do promise it will be worth it. Just don’t give up. Remember, a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Change happens slowly, within a million moments that all seem to be the same. Until one day, you look back and you notice that the change was happening everyday within every choice you decided to make. So what choice are you going to make today?